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Yes No 1. When a person is blatantly unfair, do you usually fail to say something about it to him or her?
Yes No 2. Are you always careful to avoid all trouble with other people?
Yes No 3. Do you often avoid social contacts for fear of doing or saying the wrong thing?
Yes No 4. If a friend betrays your confidence, do you having trouble telling him or her how you really feel?
Yes No 5. Do you find yourself doing more than the fair share of cleaning in your room or apartment?
Yes No 6. When a clerk at a store waits on someone who has come after you, do you just assume that he or she didn’t see you?
Yes No 7. Do you find that there are very few people with whom you can be relaxed and have a good time?
Yes No 8. Would you be hesitant to ask a good friend to loan you a couple of dollars?
Yes No 9. If someone who has borrowed $5.00 from you seems to have forgotten about it, would you try to forget about it?
Yes No 10. If a person keeps on teasing you, do you have difficulty expressing your annoyance or displeasure?
Yes No 11. Would you remain standing at the rear of a crowded auditorium rather than trying to find a seat up front?
Yes No 12. If someone kept kicking the back of your chair in a movie would you move to another seat?
Yes No 13. If a friend keeps calling you very late each evening, would you take the phone off the hook rather than confront that person?
Yes No 14. If someone starts talking to someone else right in the middle of your conversation, do you say to yourself, What I was saying didn’t really matter...?
Yes No 15. In a plush restaurant, if you order a medium steak and find it too rare, would you be embarrassed to draw attention to the matter?
Yes No 16. If a landlord of your apartment fails to make the necessary repairs after promising to do so, do you just fix things yourself?
Yes No 17. Would you keep a faulty garment you purchased a few days ago?
Yes No 18. If someone you respect expresses opinions you strongly disagree with, would you keep to yourself your conflicting point of view?
Yes No 19. Are you unable to say no when people make unreasonable requests?
Yes No 20. Do you think that people should "go with the flow" rather than "stand up for their rights"?
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Interpretation |
0-5 |
Excellent! You probably get your steak cooked right and get the repairs done to your apartment. Keep speaking up! |
6-10 |
Good. You probably get a lot of what you desire–people to stop kicking the chair or your roommate to do half the cleaning. In what situations does your assertiveness falter? Look at these moments. Take notes for a week and see. |
11-15 |
There are times when you probably feel very frustrated–your steak is cooked wrong or you don’t speak up when you are interrupted. Read the chapter carefully. What can you do to bring assertiveness into your life? Try exercise Practicing Assertiveness to reflect on events in which you were assertive. Try being assertive in small ways. Record your progress for a week. |
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