Yes
No 1. When a person is blatantly unfair, do you usually fail to say something about it to him or her?
Yes
No 2. Are you always careful to avoid all trouble with other people?
Yes
No 3. Do you often avoid social contacts for fear of doing or saying the wrong thing?
Yes
No 4. If a friend betrays your confidence, do you having trouble telling him or her how you really feel?
Yes
No 5. Do you find yourself doing more than the fair share of cleaning in your room or apartment?
Yes
No 6. When a clerk at a store waits on someone who has come after you, do you just assume that he or she didn’t see you?
Yes
No 7. Do you find that there are very few people with whom you can be relaxed and have a good time?
Yes
No 8. Would you be hesitant to ask a good friend to loan you a couple of dollars?
Yes
No 9. If someone who has borrowed $5.00 from you seems to have forgotten about it, would you try to forget about it?
Yes
No 10. If a person keeps on teasing you, do you have difficulty expressing your annoyance or displeasure?
Yes
No 11. Would you remain standing at the rear of a crowded auditorium rather than trying to find a seat up front?
Yes
No 12. If someone kept kicking the back of your chair in a movie would you move to another seat?
Yes
No 13. If a friend keeps calling you very late each evening, would you take the phone off the hook rather than confront that person?
Yes
No 14. If someone starts talking to someone else right in the middle of your conversation, do you say to yourself, What I was saying didn’t really matter...?
Yes
No 15. In a plush restaurant, if you order a medium steak and find it too rare, would you be embarrassed to draw attention to the matter?
Yes
No 16. If a landlord of your apartment fails to make the necessary repairs after promising to do so, do you just fix things yourself?
Yes
No 17. Would you keep a faulty garment you purchased a few days ago?
Yes
No 18. If someone you respect expresses opinions you strongly disagree with, would you keep to yourself your conflicting point of view?
Yes
No 19. Are you unable to say no when people make unreasonable requests?
Yes
No 20. Do you think that people should "go with the flow" rather than "stand up for their rights"?
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Score |
Interpretation |
0-5 |
Excellent! You probably get your steak cooked right and get the repairs done to your apartment. Keep speaking up! |
6-10 |
Good. You probably get a lot of what you desire–people to stop kicking the chair or your roommate to do half the cleaning. In what situations does your assertiveness falter? Look at these moments. Take notes for a week and see. |
11-15 |
There are times when you probably feel very frustrated–your steak is cooked wrong or you don’t speak up when you are interrupted. Read the chapter carefully. What can you do to bring assertiveness into your life? Try exercise Practicing Assertiveness to reflect on events in which you were assertive. Try being assertive in small ways. Record your progress for a week. |
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